I have been wanting to address this subject for over a year but have been waiting for the right timing. Over the past few months, I have had clients ask me the same question, worded in different ways, but meaning the same thing. The question is expressed differently and usually sounds something like this, “How do I know the truth? What is the truth? What is my truth and how do I find it or know it?” So, I am going to be daring and offer some of my best ideas on the subject of knowing Truth.
If one of your children, friend or someone close to you were to ask you to explain truth to them, what would you say? Seriously… think this through and take a shot at a definition of truth off the top of your head. Not easy, is it? Why?
Truth is a much-discussed philosophical term which usually drifts off into some esoteric discussion that often leaves you more confused than clear. Why is that? Why do most of us have difficulty explaining something that seems so simple? We talk about the simple truth, but it often ends in an argument over which truth is the “REAL” truth.
The reason truth is difficult to define is because truth is understood first from one’s individual perspective. Religion speaks of universal truth or ultimate truths. A new catch-term related to the understanding of truth is “your truth.” You are told to always stand in “your truth.” To complicate the issue — if we all have individual truths, do we have to comply with each other’s truths to have unity? The discussion goes on, but I think it is a good idea to have some firm understandings of these issues to insure healthy emotional connections with yourself and others.
Truth must first be determined from your own individual perspective. You must know your individual truth before you can ever stand in it. So, the first question to ask yourself is, “What is my truth? What elements of my life do I hold or believe to be truth?” As example, you may believe in family first, love, relationships, kindness, connections, a higher power, etc.
Once you have a good understanding of what truth is for you, you have a greater capacity to understand truth from a universal perspective. Remember, you may be very aware of your truth, but that may not be the truth for others. Yes, we all hold individual truths. So, be aware that you may come across someone who holds a different truth from yours. Should we alienate them? Should we refuse to connect? What are your moral obligations to differing truths?
When you find yourself in the presence of someone who holds differing truths from you, what is your moral obligations to them and to yourself? This ultimately comes to an individual choice. From my personal perspective, my choice is to respect the other person’s truth as much as I respect my own. I must provide emotional space for differing truths of others. However, if someone’s truth is in conflict with my own, I should “stand in my own truth” while allowing emotional space and respect for the differing truth.
Take some time today to think through this article. Get serious about identifying your personal truth. Always remember, we must leave room in our hearts for the loving respect of each other’s TRUTH!
Until next time, May God Bless!