Are You Impacted By Other People’s Energy?
- You love your friend, but her or his negative energy “gets to you,” and you always feel a little “off” after being around him or her.
- Your spouse comes home in a bad mood, and you instantly feel drained and depleted.
- Your co-worker’s constant complaining just feels like a heavy weight by the end of the day.
You have probably heard the old saying, “You could cut the tension in the room with a knife.” That’s energy! You are constantly feeling the energy of those around you. More times than not, we are allowing this energy to invade our own energetic space and change our own personal energy. I’m sure you are familiar with the view that you are like the five people with whom you spend the most time. Well, that concept has now been scientifically proven. According to the HeartMath Institute, “Our thoughts and emotions affect the heart’s magnetic field, which energetically affects those in our environment, whether or not we are conscious of it.” This is why I always say:
People are reading your energy way more than they are listening to your words!
You are constantly broadcasting your energetic signature on a moment-by-moment basis to the world. Intuitively you know this. You get around that person you barely know, and you think to yourself, “There is something about this person I don’t like,” or you get around another person, and you just love how that person makes you feel! This has been scientifically proven as well. Our heart produces an electromagnetic field around it, and it can be measured several feet away from the body. Guess what changes the electromagnetic field around our heart … our emotions! Emotions like fear, guilt and shame produce energetic levels of around 100 hertz or below. However, feelings of love and joy produce energetic levels of 500 hertz and above.
It would be nice to never have to experience negative emotions, but that is just not reality. I believe, as a part of our human journey, we are here to experience all emotions – the good ones and the bad ones. The goal is to live in awareness of what emotions you are experiencing. With a good sense of awareness of the emotions you are feeling, you can determine if the energy is coming from you or from someone else. Awareness is important because with awareness comes choice. Yes, you can now choose which energy to hold onto and which energy to avoid.
One of my favorite energy tools is “The Bubble Technique,” a visualization practice where I imagine and visualize myself in a bubble. This bubble is as tough as Teflon; negative energy just bounces off it. The only energy I allow in my bubble is love. I use this technique when I am in the airport, the grocery store, or in the middle of a challenging conversation. The bubble allows me to assess and choose what energies I am allowing into my personal energetic space.
Gandhi said, “Be the change you want to see in the world.” I say BE THE ENERGY YOU WANT TO EXPERIENCE IN YOUR WORLD!
In love and gratitude,